Have you ever looked at your partner or one of your exes and felt like how did I end up with him? When you want to go out and you choose totally different places to hangout, don’t you say to yourself ‘How are we so different and yet together?’ You always keep telling your friends, ‘She’s not even my type. I think this is what love feels like.’ Well, you are wrong my friend. This is got nothing to do with love.
It is the simple magic of timing. Human beings are constantly looking for something in life. So when we come across a person who gives us that particular thing, we get attracted to him. If you are looking for love, you will get attracted to the first person who crosses your path and shows concern. If it is sex that you seek, you will instantly fall for the most passionate person you sleep with. If support is what is on your ‘urgently required’ list, you will date a person who is very nurturing.
It is actually that simple. How much ever we try to complicate things, life is actually pretty simple. We get attracted to a person’s vibes. If you have been through a mentally or physically traumatizing relationship, the next person you fall for would definitely be a calm, cool-headed one. This is because you are seeking peace. So even if you might be social animal, you would enjoy snuggling with him on the couch on the weekends. And because we are doing something that is so against our nature, we start believing that this person is very special; that it is true love. I am not saying that it cannot develop into love, but it is certainly not in the beginning. Love is something that happens gradually. Love happens when you remember to do things for each other, when you understand the emotions behind his anger, when you think about her before you do for yourself, when you absolutely refuse to give up on each other’s dreams.
If you want to know what it is that you are looking for in life right now, in terms of relationships, it is simple. All you need to figure out is which one of your exes do you think about a lot these days. Now, understand whether you are thinking of them because you miss him or because you want to remember her as a lesson? Well, if missing is what you do, you are looking for what that particular partner provided you with. If their thought despises you, you are looking for the exact opposite of it.
Isn’t it simple? So go figure out what it is that you are looking for and find the person who is going to give it to you and I hope it eventually becomes the love that your heart desires.
